I have been thinking a lot about being present lately. It seems that we spend an awful lot of time thinking about moments that have already past; why did I do this or that, or the moments that are yet to come; what will I prepare for dinner tonight, all the while completely missing out on the only place where life happens, this very moment. This is not a new thought, it is something I dwelled into quite a bit in my years of intense yoga practice, and something that I think about often as I go about my daily doings, deep in thought as it were; somewhere else. I am deeply aware that when my mind wanders during any moment, I miss the magic and glory of what I am doing and life appears more grey, where as my full attention given to the present moment, makes all the colors pop and magic a possibility.
We all do this, to a greater or lesser extent every day, and certainly there are aspects of our lives that need attention before they happen, yet what has me pondering this thought more of late, is the fact that we may to be passing this "habit" onto our children. It seems to me that we are so conditioned to bring up the future that we, without conscious thought, constantly apply this to our children.
Example; We have a trip planned to go visit good friends, these are friends that we do not see often and I know that the news will bring great excitement to the children. Lets say I share this with them today, and the trip is not for another two weeks, I can say with certainty that they will be asking when we are leaving almost, if not every day, and everyday they will then spend time in "waiting", thus missing out on the beauty that is happening right in front of them right now. If on the other hand I wait, containing myself, and only tell them just the day before we leave, will their excitement be any less? I doubt it and the waiting will only be a day, and still allow plenty of time for looking forward (in the eyes of a child) a timeframe that even my youngest can relate with. It seems to me, as I think about these things, that waiting to share exciting news until they are just about to happen, might allow our children to struggle less as adults when it comes to living their lives in the present moment.
Clearly we want to make our children happy, thus telling them things that we know will be exciting to them, yet what we are really doing, I believe, is conditioning them to thinking that everything exciting happens somewhere in the future, to always feel that there must be something to look forward to; the weekend, a birthday, people coming to visit, a trip or any other special event, instead of deeply realizing that there can be, indeed there is, excitement and beauty in every moment if we only take the time to live it when it is happening, which is always right now.
I have already caught myself a couple of times today wanting to share a thought of something happening tomorrow, and stopped. I feel certain that by keeping up this effort, I will help my children spend more time, as they naturally would without my input, in the here and now. And as they grow, living in the present lane, it will be quite natural for them to remain present and not something to be learned.
~I thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts, please feel free to share yours,
and a happy sunday to you all~
and a happy sunday to you all~